Remember “True Grit’s” Hailee Steinfeld, the 12-year-old Pippi Longstocking with a thirst for vengeance?
Now she’s singing about masturbation. Man, those night changes, huh? Though we don’t know how much of the population has caught on yet. And before you get your knickers in not-so-pleasant twist, this is great.
Hailee debuted her new song “Love Myself” over the summer, a pop powerhouse firing off on all cylinders. She coos coyly about that “itch in the night” and channels Demi’s “Cool for the Summer” when she whisper-sings about loving herself without the proverbial “you.” The song then climbs to a delicious high as it approaches that anthemic chorus, but not before Hailee’s vocals become euphoric: “I’m going to touch the pain away / I know how to scream my own name,” she sings, and the beat drops, and we’ve reached climax, people.
Do you see what I mean?
This is a dawning of a new age, where young, sexy stars aren’t just selling sex — they get to enjoy it, too. Hailee rubs against a window in a self-service bodysuit; Miley Cyrus writhes in heavenly light in the “Adore You” video; Beyoncé sings explicitly about female oral sex in “Blow”; Taylor Swift sheds her squeaky-clean image for some wild dreams of her own.
The only problem here is that the mainstream media is selling this as a self-love song, instead of, you know, a self-LOVE song. A quick Google search only brings a handful of articles acknowledging Hailee’s clear and obvious message, the rest choosing to lump her in the Rachel Platten feel-good, high-self-esteem category. Steinfeld feels good, but, like, not in that way? She feels good because she’s having orgasms.
And she’s giving them to herself.
It’s important not to pretend this song is something it’s not. While songs can take on double meanings, any music that acknowledges that females can — and do — pleasure themselves, and can — and do — orgasm is important for tearing down the long-held belief that they don’t or they can’t.
Beliefs like that perpetuate modern day tragedies — did you know, according to statistics from the Kinsey Institute, about 20 to 30 women don’t orgasm during intercourse compared to 75 percent of men? The same study indicates that 80 percent of women can only climax with additional sexual stimulation.
And these are some of the only numbers out there, since there’s little money put into the study of women’s sexuality compared to men. For example: the FDA has approved 26 sexual enhancement treatments for men and zero for women.
So scream as loud as you can about this one: Your favorite new club song “Love Myself” is about female masturbation and pleasure. You go, Hailee Steinfeld.